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Date |
Box # |
Folder # |
Additional Info. |
| Quilt # 33 |
2010-2019 |
1 |
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Description |
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"Take the power away from the one that hurt you... Move forward and turn the pain
into strength, You have no power over me/ Don't judge yourself by what others did
to you/ Rape is a coward hiding its face in the makeup of (illegible)/ Lesbian survivors
rule, we are strong, we are loved/ (female symbol)/ No means no, no means no Respect/
No means no/ Silence is the enemy, be heard, Ask first, no means no/ Consent/ Domestic
violence, no means no/ Stay strong/ No means no, consent yiou deserve, no rape abuse,
fly!, trust/ No means no so stop asking/ You are not alone, love unity hope/ no means
no/ No No speak up, brak the silence/ No means no, protect yourself/ Catcalling makes
you a dog/ It's mine Nachos!/ Tell us what you wouldsay to a harrasser if it was safe/
I don't look sexy for you/ Dear street harrassers, you make me ashamed of my gender
and my orientation -Michael/ You are the insane one, motherfucker/ You are a filthy
and pathetic being. Fuck you/ Shut up, have some empathy asshole/ Whistling is for
the birds, stop doing it at me!!!/ Fuck off, fuck off, No asshole. and also I feel
scared and violated/ I will fight you" (188, 189, 428, 429).
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| Quilt # 34 |
2010-2019 |
1 |
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Description |
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"From a quiet moment in the Women's Center, after another Take Back The Night... after
another email from asurvivor whose professor blames her... after another phone call
assigning me to a new 'case'... after another hour of teaching men about rape culture...
I AM A BOWL I hold things... and sometimes nothing at all... and sometimes everything...
'My friend told me to come to the Women's Center because you're nice.' Empty. 'You
are brave' Just breathe. Ineffective. Alcohol doesn't equate consent. Shocked. Scared.
Sad. Pain. 'I don't want to get them in trouble.' The other day I walked by the place
you were assaulted and I couldn't stop thinking about you. 'I don't want to use them
as a resource, they never picked up the phone.' FULL. Shocked. Numb. Anger. Relieved.
I tell myself... don't cry & sometimes I think I've forgotten how to cry... I believe
you. It's okay to cry. Spilling over... Dead inside or maybe I'm just a robot. 'My
firend has noone to talk to because she doesn't want to report it.' Rushed. 'My parents
will blame me.' I close the dorr and sometimes just cry. 'No one else listened to
me until I talked to you.'"/ My body was a time machine. I disassociated during sex
for years after I was raped. My (visoris - illegible) were beautiful ...and totalizing.
Eventually by naming my experience and taking care of myself, I (re)discovered intimacy./
Inspire/ STOP M.R.!! -Murder -Rape (2, 8, 19, 23).
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| Quilt # 104 |
2010-2019 |
1 |
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Description |
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"Objectification, Confusion, Slander, Avoidance, Time, Blame, Ignorance, Self-loathing,
Shame, Fear, Denial, Rage, Apathy, Isolation, Silence, When I was a child someone
I trusted took advantage. I was passive but never at peace. Silent, until I had a
friend who helped me find a voice, wholistened to my story./ I wore this outfit home
after the night I was raped. I've had it hidden in my closet for all these months
and I don't know why I haven't thrown them away. It is just a reminder of that night
where I trusted a friend but ended up being used in a sick game. And now I am freeing
myself of it. Just another step in the journey of healing. I am a survivor. I am strong.
(written on a pair of gym shorts with a t-shirt next to it) Strong/ My sister was
raped and it brought a rage and sadness I've never felt. His actions affected me,
my family, and everyone (illegible) my sister. He was not entitled to her. My fear
is that he will never pay and will go on assuming that any woman is his to take."
(10, 20, 21, 22).
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| Quilt # 131 |
2010-2019 |
2 |
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Description |
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"Not your fault/ I know you feel you can't come home. I am here for youwhen you do
and also if you don't you are loved/ You are not [less than], you are strong/ I love
you" (3248, 3249, 3250, 3251).
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| Quilt # 136 |
2010-2019 |
2 |
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Description |
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"Consent is beautiful. Respect one's agency. Share knowledge. Spread wealth/ Listen
to the victims of sexual violence. Ignorance may be part of the problem. Learn Say
something. Do something/ Coersion does not equal consent/ I believe in you. You are
strong, beautiful & amazing/ LGBTQQ survivors experiences are valid. Believe us/ Free
Tondalo Hall!" (567, 568, 569, 570).
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| Quilt # 144 |
2010-2019 |
3 |
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Description |
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"Sometimes even to live is an act of courage/ All women deserve -a voice -safety -security
-love -support #blacklivesmatter/ We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely
admit to changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty - Maya Angelou/ You are
beautiful, You are loved, You are wanted, You are worthy, Our past does not define
us." (613, 614, 615, 616).
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| Quilt # 146 |
2010-2019 |
3 |
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Description |
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"Don't judge yourself by what others did to you/ We are free together or slaves together...
I cared about this pain. My mistake/ Break the silence with your strength & love/
Love yourself/ No means no/ Dear world, we are beast/ (illegible) sasha, alex/ Listen
from your heart" (622, 623, 624, 662).
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| Quilt # 157 |
2010-2019 |
4 |
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Description |
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"I became stronger because you were weak and thought I was easy, You are not alone,
Every woman & girl in my family" (553, 948, 949).
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| Quilt # 193 |
2010-2019 |
4 |
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Description |
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"Love heals wounds, Patient love is real, Unconditional love means without conditions,
Ilove me so that I can really show you what love is, Love is forever, of God, our
father amer/ I went to church just like my mother, there metmet the biggest sinners.
We could fill a hymal with these sorrow songs. They couldn't stop us from singing/
sit, write, reflect" (2604, 2690).
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| Quilt # 222 |
2010-2019 |
5 |
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Description |
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"If we give our children sound, self-love, they will be able to deal with whatever
life puts before them. - bell hooks/ You R always yours/ We shall overcome. I am mine
before I am anyone else's/ It's not your fault, it's our responsibility/ You're not
alone, I care about victims" (1069, 1070, 1071, 1072).
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| Quilt # 230 |
2010-2019 |
5 |
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Description |
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"Whatever you decide to do now is the right decision/ You are not alone, As a woman
the question should not be who's going to let me; it should be who's going to stop
me/ Listen to me please/ Let your voice be heard, yell! shout!/ The only way to go
is up" (870, 871, 1128, 1130).
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| Quilt # 240 |
2010-2019 |
6 |
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Description |
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"Unseen to seen,/ unheard to heard, forgotten to remembered,/ Stay encouraged love,/
Cover by the blood, peace happinessjesus believe,/ Tell your story, you're not alone,
UMBC ASB 2016" (1186, 1187, 1188, 1189).
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| Quilt # 241 |
2010-2019 |
6 |
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Description |
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"Love yourself,/ Love love love love...,/ I love you" (1182, 1183, 1184, 1185).
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| Quilt # 254 |
2010-2019 |
7 |
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Description |
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"Love, hope, justice, growth, forgivness, safety, hope, survivor, joy, overcome, faith,
healing encouragement, self-care, sisterhood, friendship, peace, courage, support,
freedom, independence/ Ask B4 you do something/ Consent is step one/ Did I say you
sould do it?/ No means no, yes means yes, wherever I go, however we dress.../ Permission/
"My body" "My birth" "My decision" "I demand consent"/ Consent is key/ Learn to say
no without x-plaining yaself/ Lord you are good and I will trust you, I am survived,
I am haled, I have forgiven, I am moving on/ We're here, we're listening" (1263, 1269,
1273, 1274).
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| Quilt # 255 |
2010-2019 |
7 |
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Description |
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"Consent, consent... Come together/ Peace Love Jesus" (1276, 1277, 1278, 1279).
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| Quilt # 311 |
2010-2019 |
8 |
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Description |
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"Slumber does not equal consent, I didn't know that every little bot didn't go through
what this one little boy did!, Joi! Black Lives MAtter 2015, Peace Love Laugh Live"
(1564, 1565, 1566, 1567).
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| Quilt # 329 |
2010-2019 |
8 |
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Description |
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"I am God child/ Just look up and see how beautiful you are/ You are #1,they are sick"
(1495, 1496, 1497, 1498).
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| Quilt # 330 |
2010-2019 |
9 |
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Description |
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"No means no, ASK, Your strong, Love, I hate it because... it doesn't leave coersion,
Self doubt manipulation, there are reasons we are angry, Please leave my mind: my
sacred contaminated place, Can you stop asking me to explain myself, Was it rape?
My patience is wearing thin, Why is rape so common? Be willing to change yourself,
Free yourself, you are safe now (1568,1569,1570,1571) .
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| Quilt # 375 |
2010-2019 |
9 |
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Description |
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"Sisterhood, Yo are not alone your voice matter Pain hurt peace, Yes, yes I do have
the right to be this lush and neverending - nayyirah waheed, Like a pheonix i rise"
(1741, 1743, 1744, 1749).
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| Quilt # 413 |
2010-2019 |
10 |
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Description |
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"To my abusive fucking family: I can't say I hate you because as hard as I try I still
aim for your approval. Even after you emoyionally & financially abandoned me after
confronting the monster who raped me. Some of you have tried to forget what happened
and have loved me the same way (thank you sister) but others haven't spoken to me
since (all my aunts, uncles, and cousins). I can't forgive any of you for taking his
side over mine, even you sister, who never took a side. I felt more abandoned, scared,
and alone than I have ever felt in my life. It impacts meto this day. I can't maintain
relationships because I can't trust anyone anymore. You triggered the borderline personality
that impacts me everyday, every hour, asleep or awake. I have no resolution to these
feelings, but at leasr I know what I can achieve alone./ She told me I was fucking
stupid. I told her no, she was wrong. She said to 'shut the fuck up and listen to
her.' I said no." (1874, 1875, 1876, 1877).
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| Quilt # 415 |
2010-2019 |
10 |
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Description |
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"I stand in solidarity with survivors of rape and abuse. I don't know what it's like
to be a survivor, but I know what it's like to live in fear and to watch your every
action to avoid something from happening - to not walk alone, to watch what you wear...
well screw that. You deserve to be honored. You deserve a voice. You deserve to be
heard./ We were already sleeping together so he assumed my 'no' was really a 'yes.'
It was still assault. I use what happened to me to give a voice to survivors. We are
not alone./ (illegible) love! peace!/ I was feeling hollow after processing all the
attacks on my physical body - keyword physical... not my mental or spiritual bodies.
Our physical bodies are valuable shells that protect our cores. Sometimes weaker individuals,
under the guise of strength, attempt to shatter the shells. Their violent behaviors
are proof of their own insecurities and lack of self-love. If you are a survivor of
any sexual trauma, understand that it was merely a crack to your shell. The core remains.
Love you all. -You are free -You are loved -It's their problem -Not yours, don't take
on their battles. -Laik" (1882, 1883, 1884, 1885).
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| Quilt # 423 |
2010-2019 |
11 |
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Description |
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"I didn't have the words to descibe what ALMOST happened to me until I listened tto
the stories from my friends who ALMOST got away. My ALMOST was the same. I am not
lucky. ALMOST is not okay. /I felt shame for the longest time because it felt good
physically but you know what? It did not/was not good emotionally #iamfree #umbc2015
/You are beautiful and no one can change that or take that beauty from you./ Your
fingers left permanent bruises on my skin only I can see. But my body is still mine./
My sexuality is still my own. I don't belong to you. I will always belong to myslef./
YES means YES. NO means NO. Whatever we wear, wherever we go. UMBC TBTN '15/ Power
in numbers Share your story!/ Your story is valid/ It's con-sensual if it's NOT consensual/
No means no, Consent is sexy/ Saying yes sober is consent/ Let's build a community
to end rape culture/ Standing together & standing strong to end rape culture once
& for all/ UMBC supports survivors/ [Impact>Intent] You didn't have to "mean it" for
it to tear me apart.Now, I'm stronger. You are no longer my ghost. You hold no power.
I am stronger than ever now./ I stand with survivors, End racism & sexism/ I will
speak out! I will not be silenced or shamed/ We are valuable, necessary, strong, survivors/
Silence has the rusty taste of shame, Fight institutional betrayal/ Consent every
day in every way/ Respect my womyn/ You can heal!/ 1, 2, 3, 4... We won't take it
anymore! 5, 6, 7, 8... No more violence! No more hate!/ My voice will NOT be silenced/
"Yes" does not mean YES when "no" cannot be said. My story matters/ Everyone's experience
is valid.Support survivors/ No more silence Nomore violence/ You are tougher than
your toughest days!/ Consent is mandatory, no excuses UMBC TBTN '15/ I shared my assault
with you and your response was "I think you're taking it a little too far... ifyou
took it to court it wouldn't be considered rape." A part of me died along with our
friendship that day./ Fuck you. I won't do what you tell me, motherfucker (2448, 2449,
2450, 2451) .
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| Quilt # 542 |
2010-2019 |
11 |
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Description |
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"4 years you asked me to be silentand I still can't speak/ The girl he touched is
not here. I carry her heart & her / He took advantage of me - Mayella Rape is real
Life is real Should women be prosecuted for lyingabout rape?/ Fuck you!! too" (1906,
1910, 1912, 1913).
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| Quilt # 543 |
2010-2019 |
12 |
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Description |
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"You are not alone, your fight isn't over, /Alejandro you...#notmetoo but you. I want
to SCREAM your name. You are a bad man...but I saty quiet...I whisoer your name...
to keep it safe. to keep you safe...and me too. I hate that I hate you./ Stay strong,
You didn't ask for it, #Slience means no, You are worthy just breathe,You are so strong/
No -shirt -shoes -pants does not mean consent, It's a (spiral symbol)" (2452, 2453,2454,
2455).
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| Quilt # 545 |
2010-2019 |
12 |
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Description |
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"I still find it hard to use words to describe how I felt then, how I feel now, no
one wants to relive that experience, the numbness of fear, the realizationof powerlessness.
the anger the shame afterwards. The fear that no one will listen,that you will be
stigmatized by an act that was by NO means your fault. But I'm getting there day by
day - recognizing from this project that I, and other survivors, are not alone in
our fears and struggles; finding a voice to face that this actually happened to me,
when I thought statistics would be on my side, I'm glad to see this community come
together to acknowledge our feelings and experiences. Scars are tattoos with better
stories. Thank you for sharing yours, and for giving me the chance to share mine./
I don't talk about it because I don't know how. But... I find solidarity in knowing
I don't have to. Despite it all, I will live everyday unapologetically. I will be
confident in knowing that everything will be okay. ?I'm not some delicate, fragile
little flower. I wasn't deflowered, marked, or tainted. I lost nothing and they took
nothing. I am a whole human being. I am not a flower whose petals have been plucked
with each repeated abuse and every new offender. I am not an object that can easily
be held and manipulated by the hand. I am a strong tree that stops you in your path
and refuses to move from my place where my roots grow deep and firmly to the ground.
I am a survivor and I am powerful. /It's not your fault, You are not alone I love
you so much, I'm always here for you!" (2244, 2257, 2460, 2564).
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| Quilt # 547 |
2010-2019 |
13 |
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Description |
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"I was 12 years old when my best friend and her brother had made the plan to have
him rape me. He was 21. I went over to their house for a sleepover, but things did
not go as planned. I walked into their house, he immediately grabbed me, put me over
his sholder, and carried me into the basement. My bestfriend locked the door. I repeatedly
said no. Her other brother came down and stopped it. Their father who was a cop walked
up to me while I was on the floor having a panic attack and said, "Don't you think
you are too young for him?" It was not my fault!/ 'Ithough it was okay because you
were talking about wearinng a revealing bathingsuit...'/ It started when I was 6/
Remember when you told me I'd be nothing. But look who's life is rising, mine not
yours. #youracoward #youralwaysafuckboy" (2573, 2574, 2575, 2576).
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| Quilt # 553 |
2010-2019 |
13 |
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Description |
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"It's o.k. not to be o.k.!, Breathe & cry, Take the time and space you need, It wasn't
okay, you don't have to be, It hurts, it's hard, that's ok/ Me too!/ His emotional
abuse crushed my spirit. Never will I walk on eggshells to protect his self-esteem./
I don't remember how old I was when it started. I've healed but the scar remains,
sodoes momentary trauma. It'll get better!' (2565, 2566, 2567,2568).
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| Quilt # 556 |
2010-2019 |
14 |
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Description |
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"Yes means yes, no means no/ Dedicated to all survivors. May all victims heal. May
all children be safe. I was 11 and 12 when my grandfather abused me. I am 47 and still
healing/ Don't give up, don't lose hope, we're here for you/ No does not mean convince
me" (2468, 2609, 2610, 2611).
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| Quilt # 557 |
2010-2019 |
14 |
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Description |
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"Your Mind, heart, soul, body, voice matters/ You took my choice, not my story, not
my life. You robbed me, the cost was mine to hold. Tangled in nightmares, praying
for you to d.i.e. Not anymore. You triggered this transformation. I choose to forgive,
to love again. Like a new butterfly: sweet metamorphisis/ It's okat if you're not
okay/ Love is not violence" (2605, 2606, 2607, 2608).
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| Quilt # 737 |
2010-2019 |
15 |
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Description |
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"Who do you think you are?, What happened does not define me, I don't owe you SHIT,
My body my choice, Unbreakable" (3253, 3254,3255).
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| Quilt # 745 |
2010-2019 |
15 |
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Description |
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"Dear Survivor, I hear you, I love you, I believe you/ Smile/ To my dearest friend,
you are never alone. I will always love you, be thereto lisren, to support you, I
will be here for you./ You broke me. You stole my life to the point where I didn't
want to live! Some days it feels like I can't breathe/ (IT) does not define you. You
are more than, greater than, and better than (IT). Be bold, be strong, strong, strong.
Shakti Roar/ Your story is important, you are a survivor/ Even if the world runs away
I will stand by you/ My story. He was my boyfriend. He was in the Army and we had
just started dating. I was on my period so I didn't want to have sex. He forcefully
pulls down my pants and forces himself into me, shoved my tampon all the way back,
I told him no, he didn't listen. Until thisI have been quiet. I wish I would've said
something sooner. / I believe you/ Love yourself 1st/ We stand with you.".
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